We’re all too familiar with the general responses of a friend or acquaintance when we ask, ‘how are you?’ Busyness is a common theme of life, at the moment.
Do we promote busyness as an acceptable cultural standard?
Weekends have a general feeling of exhaustion.
We’re resting, in order to push through the next week and yet, by Wednesday, it feels like it should be Friday already!
I know I am not alone in this sentiment.
We’re too busy to connect with friends and family over weekends because we’re so focussed on staying in touch with our immediate families.
Rightly so, but, have you ever stopped to realise that we have been created to live and enjoy our community!
I realised the impact busyness had on my life. Which in turn led me down a rabbit hole where all I did was try to figure out, how I could restore balance.
How do we overcome the busyness epidemic of life?
Initially, this was one really long post combining work and home. Truth is, balancing busyness warrants multiple posts! If we are serious about establishing order in life, we are going to have to change our values!
Changing Values to combat busyness, Starts with Making a decision with your partner or spouse.
Al and I, made a decision as a couple, about the kind of life we want. We want an abundantly life – but not with material things! We want a full life, filled with love, laughter, authenticity and peace.
Naturally, we have expenses! Bills to pay and inflation that keeps us on our toes. However, we have decided that we will plan our lives around living a modest life.
We teach our kids, to work for what they want in life. They know not to expect expensive gifts handed on a platter. Our holidays are simplistic and nothing over the top, we drive second-hand cars and try as far as possible to keep debt to a minimum.
We look after our belongings, work in the garden ourselves and value spending time outdoors.
These are our values.
Keep each other accountable
Even in the midst of the values we have defined, we find ourselves, overstepping and keeping busy with things that aren’t priority.
Work is pretty darn busy for both Al and I! Both of us are in an interesting season at work, kind of like a career growth spurt. And as exciting as it is, this is a time, where we need to keep each other accountable! If we don’t stick to our values, we will literally find ourselves living parallel lives instead of enjoying what we work for.
Gratitude without Comparison
I had a meeting with a client last week and instead of walking out with the business answers I had hoped for, I walked out with my heart filled with contentment.
The just of the conversation was about appreciating what we have! Thanking God for answered prayers, instead of looking to another person’s reality.
The house with the Pool
My client used the example of asking God for a house and years down the line, being envious of a friend who has a house with a pool. Her argument was, that God had given me exactly what I wanted when I asked for a house! My friend may have asked for, which was a house with a pool.
She relates the story to a friend who couldn’t even swim and wondered what the purpose would be of having a swimming pool, when we can’t swim. Nicely said, don’t you think?
If we take it one step further, we could point out that a swimming pool comes with a measure of responsibility! Not only can you not leave the pool unattended with kids, you need to clean the pool, fill it with water, and keep it disinfected by adding chlorine and other chemicals.
It’s so easy to compare our lives with others, but are we prepared to take up the same responsibility or make the same sacrifices along the way?
I believe it is time for us to start practicing gratitude instead of comparing ourselves with one another.
How are you balancing Busyness in your life?
I will be doing a series of blog posts with practical ways to combat busyness! Be sure to find inspiration to live a simpler live at work, at home and make meaningful decisions about life in the long run.