I recently watched a documentary about the casual sex culture we live in, called “Liberated – The New Sexual Revolution”. Even though I was a little sceptic after watching the trailer, I thought to myself, no need to panic – you know the quality of the writer and filmmaker’s work.
I hated it from the word go.
Yet, I kept watching and hoping for something right at the end of the film that will bring perspective. Perhaps some sort of light at the end of the tunnel or a silver lining?
So, I pushed through, thinking Benjamin Nolot is the filmmaker! The same Benjamin Nolot who created the film called Nefarious.
Liberated: The New Sexual Revolution
Before I continue, let’s get you on the same page:
As much as I hated the film, here I am – a week later sharing my thoughts! Liberated, has given me something to think about. It’s challenged my parenting and made me think of ways to teach my boys, that masculinity is so much more than what’s described in the film.
Benjamin Nolot describes the film as follows: hard-hitting, raw, and sobering. The film takes place in a highly charged sexual atmosphere and there are instances of actual sexual violation that takes place.
Nolot makes a statement right at the end of his Q&A’s about the film, saying:
“Liberated causes us to ask more questions than it attempts to answer. It leaves us with a lot of unresolved tension and challenges us to find solutions. I see it as the beginning of a conversation, not the ending of one.”
The big difference between Liberated and Nefarious
Nefarious is a film about human trafficking, with the aim of showing the viewer the harsh reality of human trafficking, in order to raise awareness. The film leaves you with an overwhelming feeling of shock and defeat is what the reality is yet, hope for the future! After the film, you cannot help but share the story!
In Liberated the camera follows and interacts with students on their spring break. Both male and female students share their hopes of getting drunk and hooking up for casual sex, with the camera!
The Target audience for Liberated is young adults, but I believe, every parent needs to watch this film – especially if you have tween or teens!
Casual Sex Culture
Have you ever considered where our casual sex culture comes from?
The casual sex culture we find ourselves in is largely related to the scenes available in media today. Miley Cyrus swinging naked from her wrecking ball, along with the latest fashion from the red carpet – are mere examples of the pop culture, forcing our kids to be sexually ripe before their age.
12 Movie Scenes that are better than porn, is the one out of 3.3 million search results you get from google when googling sex scenes in films.
The accessibility of porn is another example.
This Generation Spoke up saying #Metoo
Our generation has stood up saying #Metoo. Bloggers I follow had the courage to speak up. (Harrassed Mom, The Blessed Barrenness…)
As a teen mom, I know I have been exposed to the casual sex culture! Without shying away from it, I will admit, I am a product of it in some ways.
Guess what – I grew up in the days when it was still frowned upon to get divorced. Porn was predominantly in magazines and there was no such thing as social media.
Today’s a whole different story! We have big problems as parents today!
This Generation Needs to Speak up and Show up for the Sake of our Kids
Research shows us that porn and especially porn addiction has created a demand for sex in the marketplace. The hookup culture we face tells us, there’s a problem with what we are telling our kids about love, sex and relationships and what they see in us and in the media.
Everything has become a quick-fix – from fast food to losing weight! So why would sex be any different? Why should love (or marriage) be a prerequisite for sex?
Liberated clearly shows us, there’s a really fine line between sex and rape. What are we going to do about it?
Watched bits of it here and there – what struct me was the comment “it’s a commodity” and love being fictitious. I’m left with asking myself why do these young people believe this?
I wonder if it isn’t a by-product of the sheer pace of our lifestyle – absent parents when they are still married. Media. Access to the internet.