We all need words of encouragement every now and then. These words remind us that we are valued and help us to persevere a just a little bit longer.
Now if we need words of encouragement, can you imagine how much more our kids need to hear these words from our mouths!
In February this year, I wrote a blog post about the 5 love language we use to communicate and receive love. Even while writing these words, I knew, I am slow to give words of affirmation and encouragement. This made me realise that it is something I need to practice!
Morning school drop-offs became a place to practice using words of affirmation
I’m not a morning person. Most mornings when dropping the kids off at school, I am still half asleep, even when I have had my first cuppa for the day.
At best, I used to uttered the words, “I love you, have a good day at school”
Unfortunately, mumbling these words over and over, means they lose their impact and starts to sound a little rehearsed! That is the last thing I want my kids to feel when they walk into the school grounds. I want them to know how awesome I think they are!
Our kids need to know we are behind them! They need to know that they are capable of working hard and that we are proud when they do their best. They need to know we are proud to be their parents!
I realised I needed to change my approach.
The first couple of mornings, I tried to think of something meaningful to tell my boys. And to be honest, I was stumped – at a loss for words! Because, let’s be honest, when speaking words of encouragement the aim is to speak something that is honest and genuine.
It felt a lot like small talk and if I am being very honest, I pretty bad at small talk.
One fine morning, I uttered the words, I am proud of the little boy you are.
It kind of jumped out of my mouth, without any warning. As soon as I uttered the words to Oliver I knew, I had to have a second sentence ready for Logan.
So I told him, I know he is capable of working hard and achieving his goals.
Both my sons, walked into the school grounds, feeling untouchable!
There was a sparkle in their eye that wasn’t there the previous morning. A little more swag and whole lot more confidence. Somehow they knew and understood, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that I was pleased with them!
I was amazed how much my opinion as parent mattered to them!
Now I know I don’t want to create little monsters who tried to validate their worth based on words other people speak. So I truly believe there’s a Godly principle to learn! When we raise our children to be successful according to biblical principles, it is key to speak truth over their lives.