Raising children is a trying task. Every so often, I find myself uttering the words: “They said: ‘Have kids, it will be fun.'” To be fair, some days it is fun raising children, but most of the time, it feels like an uphill battle!
How we raise our kids depends on our definition of success!
I’m a firm believer in working for what you want in life. When I had Logan, my definition of success was very different than what it is now. At the time, my goals were to complete my studies, in order to have a respectable, high-paying job, in order to send my kid to university one day!
Thankfully, personal values and Spiritual Truth is woven into who I am! Things like integrity, gratitude and being kind to those around me has guided my decision making.
My goal as a mom has always been to raise happy, well-adjusted kids with a hearty dose of perseverance and drive. Naturally, well-adjusted to me translates into many things: thankful, kind, hardworking, resilient and willing to help those around them.
Because I value hard work, my goal as a mom is to teach my kids that they will need to work for what they want in life. Stubbornly I live by the same value, but often times, I throw temper tantrums when things don’t go my way – especially when I know I have put in the hard work.
It has taught me something about myself and something I need to address in my kids now before I lead them into the rabbit hole!
Creating a Simpler Life
I learned the hard way (excuse the pun) that hard work doesn’t guarantee success. Dedication and hard work, remain a requirement for success, but sometimes you need to stick in a season until the time is right to move on. Just like a primary school child, can’t decide they are finished with primary school until they have successfully completed their 7-years of schooling, we can’t decide to move on until we’ve learned what we needed to learn in a season.
Unfortunately, the lines are blurry when it comes to being an adult. Seasons aren’t as clear as they used to be in school! Yet life has a rhythm and it is imperative for us to listen to its rhythm.
In our case, our rhythm is guided by the Lord. If we weren’t believers, I don’t know where we would put our hope! Today, I am truly grateful that I can put my hope in Him.
This won’t be the last post I write regarding success and preparing our kids for the big bad world. But I guess the idea of simplifying life, for their sake was at the top of my mind!